Eyes Wide Open: Avoiding the Heartbreak of Emotional Promiscuity
Author: Brienne Murk
“Like so many others, I used to think that purity was about sex. I thought that if I stayed a virgin until I got married, I’d be pure. In the last few years, however, I’ve realized that true purity is not connected merely to our sexuality, but to every part of our lives. Purity has to do with movies we watch, books we read, clothes we wear, friends we hang out with, words we say, places we go, people we date, and things we do. Purity has to do with how we think, what we nurture inside our hearts and how we express our passions and desires.”
(from Eyes Wide Open, p. 30)
If you’ve ever thought purity was just about sex, get ready for a wake-up call. In this book, Brienne Murk uses Scripture (lots of it!) and personal life experience to demonstrate that we are called to live a pure life and that purity extends into every part of life. Everything you do affects your purity, whether you realize it or not.
Murk also discusses emotional promiscuity, which she believes is just as much of a purity issue as sex outside of marriage. She gives the definition of promiscuity as “the practice of making relatively casual and indiscriminate choices,” then follows that definition with this thought: “Isn’t this exactly how we behave in most dating relationships? Even if we aren’t having sex, endless cycles of dating and breaking up are, by definition, promiscuous. We are casually and indiscriminately giving away our hearts, one piece at a time” (p. 21).
Did anybody see themselves in that last statement? Or even in the first one? If so, you need to read this book. It will radically challenge your perceptions of purity and dating. If we don’t even know what it means to live in purity, how can we expect to do it? If we, as Christians, desire to honor God with our lives, we must first know how to do that. Eyes Wide Open is an excellent resource for finding out what it means to live (and date) with the standard of purity to which God holds us.
What other books have y’all read that have solid, Biblical advice about dating? Let us know!